Polyamory, from theory to practice
We live in a society that expects the same from everyone and formulates a single equation for happiness. Monogamy has been imposed on us as the only visible and valid option, and this has led many people to be in relationships in which they have to hide part of their personality to adapt. We have seen the consequences; lots and lots of infidelity, disappointments, and breakups, to the point that all this has become normalized and it is now more acceptable to “slip up” than to have a transparent and ethical open relationship. Moreover, non-monogamy is a threat to the values society is founded upon. It’s time to reexamine the idea of love we are sold in movies and books from a young age, which sees jealousy and possessiveness are proof of pure love. And the more obsessed we are with someone and the less we see other people, the more ideal everything is, until all this turns pathological and people start to see it as violence.
Ethical non-monogamy opens up endless debates about what is and isn’t normal. It breaks the mold of romantic love and raises many new questions. What is fidelity? Is jealousy natural and justifiable? Is it possible to love more than one person at a time without hurting anyone? Non-monogamous options are gaining visibility, but people still assume it’s impossible and destined to fail. This book teaches you that it is possible and that there is a serious need to demolish the structures through which we relate to one another and build others that serve us on a personal level, allowing us to be who we are and others to express themselves freely.
With this book you will learn how non-monogamous relationships work and how to manage the emotions and jealousy that can arise in polyamorous relationships.
I have no intention of defending one model of relationships over the others, but it is important to shine a light on something I think most people are unaware of: ethical non-monogamy. It is time to learn about the reality of it, to voice something that cries for expression in our relationships and that has no place in a society that only pretends monogamy is the only option. Shedding light on alternative relationships, we may learn to understand monogamous relationships. Whether you change your relationships is for you to decide. And whatever you decide is fine.